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As recent graduates, Blair and I have found ourselves bouncing between two definitive feelings. The first is excitement for our seemingly independent and “adult” lives, as we move to a new place and begin to build this business. The other feeling can best be described as sheer panic from what is presumably a quarter-life crisis, as we try to make sure that we are following the path that we want, and that we are pursuing our passions. We know that we are not dancing alone in this post-grad limbo, so we thought it my be beneficial to share some tips and thoughts regarding how to transition out of undergraduate life and into our big girl pants, which we hope fit the vision for the lives that are most true to ourselves.
After graduating college, many of us experience a large amount of pressure from family members, friends, partners, and society as a whole. There is an expectation to adhere to a certain lifestyle that reflects the heightened level of maturity and success that is representative of an individual with a degree behind his/her name. We would like to stress the importance of defining success for yourself, as well as how this idea will transcend into the life you see yourself leading one year, 5 years, and 10 years down the road. You know yourself better than anyone, so only you can manifest the dreams and future that you would find most fulfilling and satisfying. Take time to self-reflect and meditate on your values and passions, so that you may begin to mold the path that you want to follow. Make sure this time is spent alone, so that the end result is unbiased and not impacted by how you believe others will react to, or perceive, you. Give yourself a voice and people will listen, and be equally inspired to be true to themselves.
I had been wanting to get my septum pierced for a while, but was afraid that it would look bad, or that people would falsely judge me if I had one. I decided yesterday that I did not want the judgement of others to keep me from doing something simple for myself, so I went ahead and got it! I love it, and I am so glad that I did it.
This is the time to take advantage of the fact that many of us do not have the responsibilities that come with a family, mortgage, or other long-term commitment. Be free-spirited, open to new experiences, and do not over think situations or decisions…within reason. Take a random trip to a place that you have never been, start a conversation with a stranger who piques your interest, or indulge in foods or activities purely because they will make you feel good. If you will not be hurting anyone else, and will also not be subjecting yourself to potential long-term consequences, do not think twice. Over thinking can lead to indecision, as the opinions and criticism of others comes into your thought processes. Sometimes, in order to be most true to your desires, it is best to live in the moment. Grow from the past, be active in the present, and reflect for the future, and everything will fall into a natural order.
As undergraduates, we become accustomed to a fairly high level of activity. We were more physically active, as a result of walking to class, enrolling in gym courses, and having a schedule that allowed for more time to workout. We were also more mentally and spiritually engaged, as we became involved with on-campus activities and within the community. Despite a shift in schedule and opportunities, staying physically, mentally, and spiritually active should remain priorities in your post-graduate life. Get up and move at least 5 days a week, whether that is a run, a bike ride, a Zumba class, or a variety of other activities. Make sure that you sweat and preserve your physical health, and diversify how you are active by engaging in different physical activities.
Also, stay involved in the community. This can be volunteering at a local homeless shelter, at the SPCA, among many other nonprofits and organizations. Helping and empowering others, particularly individuals who are less fortunate, is a great way to remember your own power, and the level of positive impact that you can have on another individual. Seeing the diversity of lifestyles and access to opportunity in your own community will also help you to stay grounded, and to remember to express gratitude for all of the privileges that you have each been given. Overall, engaging with your community is a great way to stay positive, as well as to promote positivity and love in others.
As you begin this new chapter in your life, it is natural to begin moving away from the story that you were a part of in previous years. We attract certain people into our lives at different points on our journey, because they play a deliberate role and have a specific purpose on our path at those times. In knowing this, it is expected that you will not be able to maintain all of your previous friendships, as you continue to develop as a conscious individual and move forward. However, we stress that you take some time to recognize the people who have been positive, consistent, and strong parts of your life, and hold onto them! Any transition period is stressful, as it consists of change and uncertainty. Devoting time and energy into the healthy and supportive relationships in your life is another great way to remain grounded, and to ensure you have an area of your life in which you feel secure. These people will encourage you to achieve your goals and pursue your passions, and will also be there for you to confide your fears and insecurities sans any form of judgment. Conversely, make sure that you fulfill those same needs for the people in your life. With greater maturity comes a greater sense of mutualism and respect for other people’s needs and feelings. Make sure that you have balanced relationships, in which each party complements each other, and functions symbiotically.
Because we are all in the same boat, drifting away from the structure of college life and floating into the overwhelming abyss that feels like our future, it is extremely easy to compare ourselves to our peers. We are going to be honest here and admit that for us, this typically involves looking at a variety of social media platforms and thinking about how much more put together everyone around us seems to be. One person just completed their first marathon, another just got married, and yet another is traveling the world. What we all need to realize is that every person’s path is unique, and cannot be compared or paralleled. Use the time you would be spending scrolling through newsfeeds and reflect on your own goals, and how you can best accomplish them. Do not be envious of other people, but rather be happy that they are leading the lives that are best fit for them, and use that as inspiration to do the same. Remember to express gratitude for what you do have, and recognize your own achievements.
If you take anything from this piece, remember this…
You cannot begin to get to know yourself without allowing some exploration. Challenge yourself and your boundaries, and do not let anyone tell you that there is something wrong with you, or that you need to lead your life in a certain way or in a certain direction.
Nothing is certain. Embrace your instability, and use it to catalyze change and to better get to know yourself and what you truly want out of life.
Stay true to yourself, although that will change in some ways over time, and be patient with this process. You are never alone in how you are feeling, as we are all in this together, and we are all interconnected.
Keep your head held high, your heart and soul centered, and your feet grounded, but moving.
We promise you that you are doing just fine.
Let us know how you are surviving, or survived, any transition period in your life. We would like to be a positive support system for you all, and hope that you can be a network of support for each other 🙂
Love and Light,
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